I have had a “happiness” post in my head for YEARS. But now
they said it better than I could:
“Happiness is never constant, and it’s not supposed to be. – You have to fight through some bad days to earn the best days of your life. To believe that you can reach a state of happiness and stay there forever, is like the tide believing she can reach for the shoreline and remain there forever; or like a fruit tree believing that if she only holds on tighter, she can keep her fruit from dropping to the ground. Happiness is simply a series of moments that come and go and add sweetness to our lives. Learn to accept this, and the more happy moments you will have.”
In my humble opinion, the belief that I HAVE A RIGHT TO BE HAPPY ALL THE FUCKING TIME is one of the biggest reasons our divorce rate is so damn high in this country. I know Jamie used it on me as an excuse to leave me, even going so far as to say, “You are being selfish if you don’t allow me to be happy.” Nobody MAKES you happy or unhappy. Happiness comes from within and no I did not have to get high to have that insight. Relationships are hard – all of them: with bosses, with co-workers, with children, with lovers, with friends, with parents. It is not all unicorns and butterflies and rainbows all the time is what I’m saying, and it’s not supposed to be. But if you stick it out and weather the storms, the sun will one day come out again.
(What is UP with me today?! I don’t know but don’t expect me to be this insightful, mature and inspirational all the time. You will surely be disappointed.)
(PS - No, Jeff and I did not get in a fight. We are not currently "weathering a storm." Just so you know.)